I do this to achieve inner peace
Slot the people around you
There are two plants—One is Hibiscus. On regular watering, buds develop on the plant that later bloom into awesome flowers.The second one is Fern. Despite regular watering, changing the soil, adding manure and pesticides, there will be no flowers on the plant.It is their nature. One has flowers throughout the year, while another doesnt have a single flower in its lifetime.Now a gardener should understand this and make peace with their nature. Instead, if he starts blindly expecting that Fern also should flower as he is taking equally good care of it, what he gets is only disappointment and sadness.
Likewise, every person you meet is different. You need to accept their nature, rather than expecting them to come out their personality and make you happy.
Whenever you meet a new person, based on the first few interactions, try to know whether the person is a hibiscus or rose or fern and moss. Slot him into that category and accordingly decide how to treat him. Don’t make everyone equal, rather think how much importance he is adding to your life.
If a person has no gratitude or appreciation, either don’t do him any favour or expect him to not value my help and say thanks when you do him a favour.
If a person is selfish and has very little time for others, either don’t go to him if you need help or even if I go expect him to say ‘no’.
If a person is short-tempered, don’t expect him to listen and react calmly in a bad situation.
Always line your expectations with their personalities. That way, the reality never falls below your expectation.
In the last three years, I don’t remember sitting alone in my room and worrying about the behavior of a person— ‘She should have at least answered the call’ ‘He should have said thanks’ etc. I never liked my personal time getting controlled by the thoughts of another person.
This is something I do to maintain my inner peace.
If you expect something from a person which he doesn’t have, then it is your mistake and not his. You have to blame yourself for your expectations. When someone has hurt you, it means you have given him more importance than he deserved. Peace lies in minimising such situations.
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